Mary Magdalene’s 7 Signs of True Repentance
Of course, repentance is needed on the part of the clergy and hierarchy for enabling and covering up sexual abuse. But repentance is also needed by lay people for our own sexual scandal.
As Pope Benedict XVI told U.S. bishops, “What does it mean to speak of child protection when pornography and violence can be viewed in so many homes through media widely available today?” What does it mean to protect children when their parents have themselves accepted so many sexual anomalies and excesses?
Mary Magdalene, who is often associated with sexual sin, shows the way to the repentance that the Church – meaning us – needs.
First: The truly repentant break with Satan.
Talking about Satan’s role in sin can sound like avoiding personal responsibility. But in the ultimate act of repentance Catholics make, when we are baptized, we reject Satan, his empty promises, and his works.
There is no denying it: Satan’s role in sin is immense. Much of what is wrong with the world today is that it conforms more to his empty promises than Christ’s plan.
Mary Magdalene is referred to twice in the Gospels as the disciple of Jesus “from whom seven demons had gone out.” Many of us reject Satan theoretically, but still flirt with him, by keeping a hand in the things he likes. Mary Magdalene broke with him for good.
Second: The truly repentant don’t just “follow” … they change their trajectory.
When many of us repent and follow Jesus, we may be subconsciously planning to actually lead Jesus more than follow him. We continue to do the kind of things we would do anyway, but tell ourselves that Jesus is with us.
Mary Magdalene is listed among the women who traveled with Jesus. In other words, she got off one path and got on another — Jesus’ path.
Third: True repentance shows up in your wallet.
Mary Magdalene is also listed (in Luke 8:2-3) as one of the women who provided for the disciples “out of their means.”
That is another aspect of following Jesus: It means your bank account looks different. It means that instead of considering your money your own, you consider it Christ’s, and use it to alleviate the needs of others.
Fourth: The truly repentant embrace the suffering Christ.
We hear twice about Mary Magdalene in the accounts of the crucifixion. In Mark (15:40) she is “looking on from afar.” In John (19:25) she is “standing by the cross.”
The best way to explain the discrepancy is that Magdalene moved closer to the cross.
She modeled the movement every Catholic needs to make. The crucifix looms large in our churches. But we need to make a move toward it. The Church in fact provides ways to do that: the Friday sacrifice, the weekly Stations of the Cross, the Sorrowful Mysteries of the Rosary.
Fifth: True repentance means never using Christ’s “absence” as an excuse.
True repentance turns away from sin and stays away. It accepts that sin is bad for me and has no more to do with it, and turns to Christ and sticks with him.
False repentance isn’t that straightforward. We turn away from sin but look back. We turn toward Christ but when his connection to us feels weak, sin’s pull overwhelms us. We are stuck to sin, not Jesus.
Mary Magdalene didn’t just stick with Jesus when he was crucified, she came closer. And she didn’t just stick with him by the cross, she saw where he was lain and, when the world felt full of his absence, made the trip to do all she could, and anoint him.
Sixth: The truly repentant evangelize.
The presence of Jesus’ grace in her life is so significant that Mary Magdalene can’t keep it to herself.
For her this is because she literally witnessed the resurrection — via the angel, the earthquake, the empty tomb and meeting Jesus himself.
Her response was to tell other people about it. She rushed back to the Apostles to tell them what she had seen. She insisted on it, even as others considered what she said an “idle tale.”
Seventh: True repentance looks not for the minimum but for the most.
Many of us do the bare minimum. We confess mortal sins, and we sort of try to fight against temptation. We learn what we absolutely must do — the Sunday obligation, the precepts of the Church — and we do that.
Mary does the opposite. She inserts herself into Jesus’ path, grabs at him, and never wants to let go.
Ironically, this “excessive” attitude toward Jesus is part of the minimal requirement of the Church.
When we go to confession, we promise to avoid not just sin, but to avoid the near occasion of sin. When we repent at Mass, we confess sins “in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done and in what I have failed to do.”
Yet we sin “through my fault, through my fault, through my most grievous fault.”
The fact that we do this so often shows that we are not all as good at repentance as Mary Magdalene. Or maybe it’s training to be more like her.
Mary Magdalene, pray for us!
This appeared at Aleteia.
Image: Descent from the Cross, Rogier van der Weyden; Wikimedia.